August 18, 2014

GABRIEL: A STORY OF LOSS

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  1. I am so extremely sorry for your loss. I'm pregnant with my 2nd one and my heart goes out to you. You are so brave to share your story and hopefully each day will get a little bit better.

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    1. Thank you Erika. Congratulations on your second little one!

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  2. Thank you for trusting your readers and sharing your feelings and thoughts with us, Ashley. My heart is with you. Reading your words brought it all back to me. I lost three babies, and each time I had already grown to love them so much, that it was devastating. I was very blessed in that between these three miscarriages, I did deliver three other healthy babies. Sometimes we talk about the brothers or sisters they never got to meet, and I often wonder what life would have been like if they were all here to experience and enjoy it with us. I hope that on some spiritual plane, we might one day have that opportunity. Who knows, really. There is no greater love than that of a mother for her children. Loss teaches us all too harshly to cherish whom we have with us; yet, even after many years, a part of me is still afraid to let go and love completely. It's a reflex that has become a lifestyle. I know time to grieve is necessary. But I do hope you will not be one to close yourself off like I did. You have a community of supportive friends here, and I hope you also have friends to whom you can turn when you need help or just for someone to listen and to care. I think that when we go through experiences like this, we're better able to understand and help others who are going through it also. Time doesn't help a person forget, but with time, we can come to focus more on the joy and the life we share with our children who are growing up with us. Knowing how much they needed me kept me strong for them. It was what saved me. I sincerely wish you love, and happier times ahead.

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words. So many people have opened up to me about the loss they have gone through and it's comforting to know that others understand what I am going through. As I said, I wanted to share my story to provide comfort to others going through the same thing, but I also wanted to create a space for Gabriel that let other know that he existed. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope you and your family are doing well.

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  3. Wow. I don't even have the words. You and Aaron are so strong. God bless you and your family.

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